http://mindhacks.com/2008/12/08/the-big-tease/ Neuroscience and psychology news and views. Wed, 22 May 2013 13:23:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ http://mindhacks.com/2008/12/08/the-big-tease/#comment-6220 Wed, 10 Dec 2008 18:52:02 +0000 http://mindhacksblog.wordpress.com/2008/12/08/the-big-tease/#comment-6220 Hi Vaughan,
Thanks for carrying the article.
We have to make a clear distinction about when teasing is bullying and when its not.
When two people agree to tease and know the limits and boundaries, teasing can be a lot of fun. And even allow things to be said in a friendly way that might be hard to say or hear in other ways.
But when only the “teaser” wants to tease, and the “teasee” doesn’t want it, then it’s bullying. And the effects on the “teasee” can be quite damaging if the “teasee” does rise up and stop it. When the “teasee” stops it, he or she grows much stronger in character, courage and skill.
Disclosure: I’m a practical, pragmatic coach and consultant. Check out my website and blog (http://www.BulliesBeGone.com). I’ve written books like “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks” and “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids”. Also CDs.
Best wishes,
Ben

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